life, mindfulness, self-esteem

On Friendships

Some people come into our lives and they help us learn and grow-BUT-that doesn’t mean that there isn’t a point where that growth halts and these same people just aren’t meant to be with you to help you keep growing. That’s why friends come and they go. And some-only some-friends are the ones that last and stand the test of time. These are the special ones.Now, let’s not be afraid to say no to those people that are not helping us grow. Let us not be afraid to “cut the cord” on those friendships that are giving us bad vibes or those friendships that feel possessive when they’re supposed to feel free. Being with a friend should never feel like somebody is trying to control you or even change you. Helping you grow is one thing-trying to manipulate or change you is another thing altogether.

There are times when we have to say NO

And NO always means NO.

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life, mindfulness

Om, let there be peace, peace, peace.

From the Brihadaranyaka Upanishad:

Lead me from the unreal to reality

Lead me from darkness to light

Lead me from death to immortality

Om, let there be peace, peace, peace.

Wishing desperately for there to be peace (everywhere, absolutely everywhere in the world-not just on a personal level.)

books, writing

BOOK REVIEW: “Wasted”

I read this book around last Spring. After reading a sample of it, I couldn’t resist purchasing it. The story is intriguing from beginning to end. The author’s writing is key to telling the story–the prose is beautiful and captivating. I don’t think I would have been as interested in the book had it not been for Hornbacher’s skill at writing her own story so brilliantly. It is a dark tale, but a necessary one to hear. It informs us of the psyche of an eating disordered person, and how difficult it can be for both the person and those that are close to the person.

Something that I took away from the book: An eating disorder is never cured, you can only learn how to deal with it. The difficult part is coping with it, because it is an everyday thing. For her mental and physical struggle, and for sharing her story, I have to give kudos to Marya Hornbacher. Powerful story. Powerful book.

books, writing

BOOK REVIEW: “The Bitch in the House”

Overall, I thought this was a good read. It mainly focused on the struggle of the working woman and how she balances work/marriage/family. I could relate to some of the struggles of the younger women who contributed essays to the book, but, considering my age (20 yrs.), I could not entirely relate to the women struggling with their marriage or parenting. On the other hand, the book reminded me of my mother’s plight. She is a mother of four and after reading some of the stories, I realized how my own mother fit the bill for the “bitch in the house” when she has to assert her authority, or when she is tired of doing chores or dealing with her husband. I understand how a lot of these women are privileged, but that doesn’t mean that they don’t have something to share that we could learn from.

books, writing

BOOK REVIEW: “The Lovely Bones”

I think this is the book that has made me cry the most out of all of the books that I’ve read. It was an emotional journey to read the terrifying and horrific experience of the main character. Despite what some people think about the book, I found that there was character development with Susie. After her death she was angry at her killer, she was angry that she was not able to be with her family and live her life, but she was able to move on in the end. I think there is a change in her mindset that allows her to feel free and finally go to heaven. It’s not a perfect book, but it is both sad and hopeful, a better approach than just writing a sad story without any optimism or hope in its resolution.

books, writing

BOOK REVIEW: “Not That Kind Of Girl”

I was ok with the book until the last chapter–“Guide to Running Away.” There were some parts of the book that were enjoyable, some parts that inspired laughter, and others that were cringe-worthy. I felt that near the end, the the author was at a loss as to what was pertinent to the story. Or maybe she wasn’t, but that’s how I perceived it.

I liked the fact that it wasn’t your typical memoir. For instance, Dunham provided her food diary, which I found humorous, but I understand how some would consider this an unnecessary addition. I also got a kick out of her lists, but I admit, there were parts in her story that I could have done without.

Having said that, I think that being the controversial figure that she is, Dunham did not expect us to praise her book. I think that a lot of things that she says are tongue-in-cheek, and the fact that she does poke fun at herself and the fact that she vacillates between self-deprecation and narcissism, is just a testament to her character. One thing is for sure, I did not get bored reading her book. Was it amazing? No, I’ve found other tales more intriguing. However, there is something to learn in everyone’s story.

life, mindfulness, San Juan, Puerto Rico, self-esteem

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